We all know now that it can change in an instant. Everything. And here we are wondering what to do next. I have some questions for you. How are you feeling? Are you doing what you need to be doing in your life? Are you doing what you want to be doing? Are you taking care of yourself? Are you planning to be happy/content/safe? Because, in an instant, everything can change. We have now seen this for ourselves with the pandemic. * So, today, in addition to giving you those quest

“Everyone lies in the ER.” That statement stayed in my head long after the fear, panic and state of emergency had lessened. It seems as if we all end up in an emergency room at some point in our lives, either as the person in agony, or the advocate for said person. We recently had two very serious emergencies which led to frantic rushing to emergency rooms. The first to a city hospital. The second to hospital closer to home. As afternoon passed into evening on the day of the

Wayne Dyer said, “What other people think of me is actually none of my business.” My mother would NEVER EVER have understood this statement. EVERY PERSON’S opinion about us mattered, and all opinions mattered more than our own. I grew up with, What did they say? What did they say about your new coat? What did they say about your project, hair, sweater, shoes, mom, dad and on and on until I wanted to fall to the floor and beg for mercy. At one point, when I was perhaps sixteen

I want to write something amazing, healing and thoughtful. I want my words to make you feel better about everything. I want to use magical phrases that will make your mind rest, stop your thoughts from spinning and dispel your fear and anxious feelings of uncertainty. But I don’t know which words I could use to accomplish that. We are at an anxiety level that many of us have never felt before. Our brains are on high alert all of the time. What the hell do we do with all the f

I am rewiring my brain. I am actively adding images to some of my memories to reflect my self love and my healing. One of my first memories of my mom’s reactions to gifts, was when I was five or six, running through the kitchen. I had a little route, from the living room, through the kitchen, toward the front door and into the living room again. Someone had taken me to the store to buy a gift for Mother’s Day or her birthday. I didn’t really understand what the tiny funny fig

There is nothing inside of you that can ensure your happiness.

Healthy, happy families, and they do exist, are not really worrying about the upcoming Holidays except to plan food, gifts and events. Although there may be some stress concerning budgeting, travel arrangements or amounts of this or that for meals, overall, they are anticipating the holidays with delight. They want to see relatives, and they look forward to catching up, laughing, visiting and exchanging ideas. Unhealthy families do not anticipate holidays with pleasure. Unhea

What if that is how we started approaching our goals? Not as something to become perfect at, but as something we want to practice each

Don’t you know yet? It is your light that lights the worlds. - Rumi Deep inside of you is a light. You were born with this light. It is pure, clear and true. It is who you are. Someone or “more than one” may have tried to dim or snuff out your light a long time ago or even recently, but it remains at your core, ready to light up your life. This light is your inner spirit. It is the essence of you. It is this amazing part of you that is resilient, strong, beautiful and loving.

Once upon a time, in a kingdom not far from here, there lived an amazing woman. She had a fulfilling career, a supportive partner, and a loving family. Her windows sparkled with cleanliness in the sunlight and her outfits were always impeccable. She was friendly with everyone she met and was always patient with her children. It was rumored throughout the kingdom that she exercised every single day, and…this always amazed the listeners….she only ate healthy foods! She had time

July I am flinging myself into my house. Not around the house. INTO the house. I am decluttering with an energy that is focused and frantic at the same time. Emotional turmoil has done me in. I did not have my defenses up. These last two years have taken their toll and I know I’m not the only one that feels this way. I am weary. I hate everyone. Even the people I love and respect out there. I am cranky. I load up stuff for the thrift store, filling my car, over and over. I

Your Spirit Extends All Around You. Your spirit makes you, you.  It is ageless. Your spirit lives within you and extends all around your human body. Your spirit, like everything else in the universe, has a powerful energy and is constantly vibrating. It sends all of your feelings and thoughts of love or hate out into the world. Your spirit has no age. However, just as your body feels fatigue, so can your spirit. When we feel sadness, depression or anger, our spirits are fatig

Forgiveness: My mantra for 2018. It’s time for me to forgive. I need to forgive other people and myself. I am going to move forward with this in the new year and free myself from carrying around all this heavy, heavy shit. I stopped eating all sweets in December. (I still cannot believe I made it through the holidays without eating cookies or candy! This has NEVER happened before.) I lost weight which is what I hoped would happen, but as I got lighter and felt I could move mo

I start my mornings with Louise Hay. I also listen to her during the day and many times before I fall asleep. As I listen to her, I pretend she is my Mom. When she tells me she loves me and encourages me to love myself, I say thank you. I still do this even though she passed away recently. Louise Hay, author of You Can Heal Your Life, Founder of Hay House Publishing, Miraculous Soul, Amazing Woman and the Queen of Affirmations, changed my life. I am a better person because of

We can only pretend to be tame for short periods of time. And then, our true nature, the nature that is one with the earth, the moon, the dirt, the plants and the creative spirit, has to be let loose. If you don’t embrace your true nature as a woman, your spirit will suffer. I am 59. I have barely figured out the fifties and now here I am approaching a new decade. But it is ok. I am happy. I am allowed to be me now. I finally, truly, don’t care what people think of me. I have

Every time I attend a yoga class, I think, “Why aren’t I doing this every single day?” I always leave yoga classes feeling better. I am calmer, more centered, and actually, a little friendlier. Life feels…manageable. I have been practicing yoga for almost 20 years. There are quite a few lessons I have learned over the years and one of the most important is that there is power in taking the time to just BE. This is not an easy thing to do. The mind wants to do what the mind wa

It can be difficult to “Let Go.” We don’t want to let go of a friend who has left us or let go of a lover who has moved on. We may not want to let go of our strong beliefs about a situation even when we know we may be wrong. We don’t want to let go of foods that are bad for us, or habits that could be hurting our health. In order to live healthy, happy lives, we must learn to let go of the things that don’t serve us anymore. Maybe those desserts you love making are becoming a

Can people change? Recently a friend of mine re-hired an employee who hadn’t worked out when she hired her over twenty years ago. The woman swore she was more mature, had changed, was going to be a great employee. My friend was impressed with how she presented herself and though it had ended badly the last time, she gave her another chance. Months went by and it seemed to be working, and then it wasn’t. She failed to show up for work and well, one thing led to another, and my

First things first. Do not make reducing your stress one more thing on the to-do list. If you know you are under stress, you need to address it with love, realism and gentleness. Here are just a few of the ways that stress can manifest itself in your life: Weight Gain/Weight Loss Sleep problems Alcohol abuse Adrenal Fatigue Eczema Food Cravings Mood swings Obsessing Inappropriate reactions to events Heart Palpitations Do any of these resonate with you? Do you notice any of th

January 1st "The truth is that there is never a really 'right time'...there comes a time when one simply hopes for the best, pinches one's nose, and jumps in the abyss. If this were not so, we would not have needed to create the words heroine, hero, or courage." -Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Women Who Run With the Wolves Don't kid yourself. It takes courage to make changes and decide you want a happier life. It takes courage and determination to say, "I don't want to run aroun