Your Life, Your Choices
Updated: Jan 18, 2019
Stress. We feel it, we know what it is, but we often act like there “ain’t nothin’ we can do about it.”
Years ago, as a Stress Reducing Expert, I gave many talks and led retreats about stress. I taught people how to breathe to become calm and present in the moment, and how to recognize what they could change and what they couldn’t change in their lives. I gave them action steps and coached the people who really wanted to make changes. I wrote books and articles. I still do.
But, you know what? Not everyone wants to make the changes. It’s too much for them to contemplate and actually take action.
There are a couple things going on here. One is the “Stress Competition.” This is similar to what I have noticed about sleep deprivation. Who has had the least sleep? I’m more tired than you! Who has the most stress? My life is harder!
Stress is real and it takes its toll on your body and spirit. But it isn’t something that you have no control over. You have control. You can deal with it. You can change your life.
Why is this so difficult for people to see? I have never understood the pleasure of complaining without making changes. And I do think there is some sort of pleasure in this. There has to be a payoff, or why wouldn’t you change?
I know my personality is such that I like taking action. I like figuring out what to do and actually doing it. This part of me has helped me achieve amazing results in my life. It also makes me a great life coach. However, I still don’t get this stubbornness. Many times, people know exactly why they are stressed, they see the results, and choose to stay stuck, blaming their inertia on stress as if that is the end of it all.
There are always choices. Always. We make choices from the minute we wake up in the morning until we go to sleep at night. All day, you choose and you choose your thoughts too.
It’s a matter of changing habits and this is what I find truly puzzling. Why are people so afraid to change their habits? Why do people cling to their current choices as if it will be so disruptive and upsetting that their lives will turn upside down?
I say, turn your life upside down!
Make decisions that will improve your health. What the hell are you clinging to for goodness sake? A friggin piece of chocolate? A humiliating job or relationship?
I recently came into contact with the most stressed out woman I have ever encountered. Or at least the most stressed out woman I can remember. All of her choices have led her to this angry, unhappy state of mind, and she even knows the causes. And yet, she will not make the changes to have a happy life. I don’t get it.
I love helping people and I don't want a stressful life for any of you reading this. Think about my words, and if you need help making changes, please contact me. 😊
We have no idea how long we will be here. You could be here a really long time. How will you choose to live? Blaming stress for all your problems? Or making changes and deciding to live a better, healthier life? It’s totally up to you!
If this post speaks to you and you want some healthy ideas to start making changes, please see my earlier post https://www.diana-fletcher.com/blog/fit-healthy-15-minutes-at-a-time.
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